I'M PAMELA.
I AM 48 YEARS OLD. I AM MEXICAN-FRENCH.
I AM 5.2' TALL. I AM A RECOVERED ALCOHOLIC.
I AM IN LOVE WITH MY LIFE.
Those are facts - not stories. It's who I am.
I have nothing but pride in every one of those statements.
It took me a long time to understand that my being different (in more ways than one) was beautiful. Yes, that includes the fact that I can't drink like other people (I can't drink moderately) and that sobriety is the only option for me.
I love my life as a sober human. That's not lip service. I am madly in love with it.
My job is to help you feel the same.
To help you ditch the self-sabotage patterns, find your best self - and love the heck out of your new life.
I am here to help you claim your Freedom. With a capital freaking F.
Ready?
Pictured here: my no-makeup, salty-skinned, Topo-Chico-loving self. Joyful and free AF.
MY STORY
The first question is not: "Why the addiction?" but "Why the pain?" Gabor Maté
My life is straight from a movie script: Having a magical childhood in Mexico. Living in Paris as a college student.
Then being kidnapped in Mexico by my own government when I was 20 years old.
To survive the trauma of the kidnapping, my family fled to the United States. I pretended I was fine, but I was not.
Daily nightmares kept me up; but I soon found that if I drank enough wine, I would sleep through the night.
My love-affair with booze began at 20.
I hit “rock-bottom” at 35.
I quit drinking in 2009 but sobriety felt more like punishment than joy. I didn't drink - but I didn't heal the real pain beneath my drinking: trauma and codependency. After 5 years sober, I drank again.
This was the start of a 2-year relapse.
It was hell.
Getting sober again in 2017, I knew “just sobriety” wouldn’t cut it. This time I had to do deeper work. I went back to my program of recovery, but I also cast a wide net around me. I built new communities, welcomed new ideas, found new teachers. I got certified as a Recovery Coach, SHE RECOVERS Coach and Life Coach.
In 2018, I founded My Badass Recovery as a new way of approaching the journey of recovery.
I now know sobriety is the invitation to heal our pain and redesign our lives powerfully.
My mission is to bring this invitation to you, so you can begin your own journey of discovery and transformation.
I want to begin my journey
SHE RECOVERS Miami 2023 presentation
"No Más Calladita: Recovering Your Voice and Your Story"
MY WHY
THIS IS MY SON. I GOT SOBER (TWICE) SO I COULD BE THE MOM HE DESERVED.
Look, at the end of the day, you have to get sober for your own self.
Nobody else.
But finding your WHY is the fuel for your mind and soul. If you are just focused on the "not drinking" part, you're bound to fail. If you understand this journey is about discovering the best version of yourself through sobriety, everything changes. I got sober so I could be present for my son. So I could feel proud of my life. So I could trust myself again. So I would teach him that we can't run away from our feelings, we have to face them. So I could show up for him, no matter what.
What is your WHY?
Decades of drinking.
5 years sober. 2 years relapsing.
And finally: freedom.
One day in 2018 I woke up and realized I felt good in my skin. Good in a tingly, empowered, feel-like-a-rockstar way. The kind of good that's not dependent on what´s "outside". For the first time in decades, I liked who I was, inside. I liked Me. It blew my mind.
I realized this feeling - this massive shift - came from having done the work to ditch the shame. Shame of my past and of my addiction. After all, I was who I was because of it. I now felt empowered by my story (even the ugly parts), instead of victimized by it. I finally saw sobriety as a privilege, not a punishment.
My freedom came from giving myself permission to own my life - all of it: sober, unapologetic and deeply beautiful.
I decided this was the only way to move forward. I would never let shame dictate who I was. I chose freedom.
Thus began My Revolution.
