THE THRIVE SOBER BLOG
Last night I was invited to a party. One of those parties.
Wine flowing. Pearls. Polo shirts. Red-soled shoes that probably cost more than my rent.
It’s been quite a month: grief after losing my dog, getting knocked out sick, and facing the truth of a lifetime of undiagnosed ADHD. So when th...
You Drank Again. Now What?
You didn’t plan to.
You told yourself, not this time.
Just one. Just Friday. Just the weekend.
But now it’s Monday, and your body is buzzing with regret, your mind is heavy, and that familiar shame loop is whispering, “What the hell is wrong with me?”
Let’s cut through t...
I’m not someone who gets “depressed.”
I’ve had my fair share of hard seasons—ones that cracked me open and tested everything I thought I knew—but I’ve always been able to pick myself up. That’s the beautiful, brutal gift of recovery. Since 2009, I’ve walked the path of healing, armed with tools ...
Picture this:
it’s December 31st. You’re standing in front of the bathroom mirror, brushing your teeth. The party is over, the glasses have been emptied, and it’s just you now—you and that reflection staring back. The dark circles under your eyes. The bloat that no diet seems to touch. And the ...
Well, hola again.
Yes, it's me. Remember me? The chick who was so empowered about her sobriety that it verged on obnoxious? The woman who was cheering you on as you got sober for the first or the 100th time? The girl who was constantly churning out courses, podcasts, and sober-badass content? Yep, ...
I USED TO CELEBRATE INDEPENDENCE DAY BY CUTTING OFF MY INDEPENDENCE – WITH BOOZE.
I will begin with a story that is unfolding in front of my very eyes as I type. It’s July 3rd, Independence Day weekend, and people are ready to celebrate.
I stop as I type this and wonder how much there ...
When I started my recovery journey in 2009, I thought sobriety was only about “not drinking.” I had no idea sobriety would become the avenue through which I would become human again, and find the way back “home” to my own heart.
In the depths of my addiction, I felt like the world outside ma...
Relapse is one of my favorite subjects because I lived in it for two long years. After five years of sobriety, I found myself chugging warm chardonnay in a parking lot.
Relapse brought me shame. Shame brought me more relapse.
I would drink, feel like a failure (both the world and my own v...
Perhaps understanding how addiction hijacks your mind has given you clarity on why willpower will never be enough to get you sober for good. But perhaps it also made you feel a bit hopeless.
I invite you to feel hopeful. Why? Because now you know what the problem is, and this problem has a s...
Our mind is our own personal operating system. It’s the “command center” which has the programs that run our life. Our mind’s programs are supposed to protect us from harm, to keep us surviving and thriving.
But then.
Addiction arrives into our life and installs itself in our mind. Like...
We don’t talk enough about all the feelings that happen in early sobriety.
I've talked about committing to The Deep Yes, taking a first step, and understanding the elements of "The Work" of recovery (A Program, A Toolkit, A Community). I've also talked a lot about what happens in early recov...
I’ve talked about making a deep, personal commitment to a new life with “The Deep Yes.” I’ve discussed the importance of following the decision we take with immediate action.
You’ve made the commitment to make a change. Now, the game’s on. We’re done half-assing good intentions, and it’s time...
