Mar 12, 2021 Gluing Things Back Together


When I started my recovery journey in 2009, I thought sobriety was only about “not drinking.” I had no idea sobriety would become the avenue through which I would become human again, and find the way back “home” to my own heart. 


In the depths of my...

Feb 28, 2021 The Relapse Formula


Relapse is one of my favorite subjects because I lived in it for two long years. After five years of sobriety, I found myself chugging warm chardonnay in a parking lot.


Relapse brought me shame. Shame brought me more relapse.


I would drink, feel like a failure (both the world...

Feb 17, 2021 A Vision for Your Future


Perhaps understanding how addiction hijacks your mind has given you clarity on why willpower will never be enough to get you sober for good. But perhaps it also made you feel a bit hopeless. 


I invite you to feel hopeful. Why? Because now you know what the problem is, and this...

Feb 01, 2021 Addiction Rewires Your Brain


Our mind is our own personal operating system. It’s the “command center” which has the programs that run our life. Our mind’s programs are supposed to protect us from harm, to keep us surviving and thriving. 


But then. 


Addiction arrives...

Jan 26, 2021 Preparing for all the feelings


We don’t talk enough about all the feelings that happen in early sobriety. 


I've talked about committing to The Deep Yes, taking a first step, and understanding the elements of "The Work" of recovery (A Program, A Toolkit, A Community). I've also talked a lot about...

Jan 13, 2021 Doing The Work


I’ve talked about making a deep, personal commitment to a new life with “The Deep Yes.” I’ve discussed the importance of following the decision we take with immediate action.


You’ve made the commitment to make a change. Now, the game’s on....

Dec 13, 2020 Recovery Requires Action


After your “Deep Yes” then the “What Next?” moment, it’s about ACTION.


Recovery is - and always will be - a verb. I used to think that once I made the decision to quit drinking, my life would magically change. I can now see that part of why I failed at...

Dec 06, 2020 What next?


“What next?” is where good intentions come to die. 


“What next?” is where most of us who struggle with addiction get stuck. Addiction robs us of the power to do “Next.” We make grand decisions in our heads to finally make a change.



Nov 24, 2020 The Deep Yes

I’d had 5 years of sobriety the day I found myself in the parking lot of a CVS, pouring warm Chardonnay down my throat. That was the first day of my relapse: a two-year tumble back down the rabbit hole of addiction. 

Two years is more than 700 days. At least half of those mornings, I...

Sep 11, 2020 SHE RECOVERS Podcast Interview: Trauma and my addiction

It was such an honor to appear on the SHE RECOVERS Podcast! I love any chance to connect with Taryn or Dawn, and their podcast honors and works through the idea that everyone is recovering from something.

In this interview, I talked about the ways that my past trauma detonated my use of alcohol,...

Sep 07, 2020 What is the Difference Between a Program of Recovery, a Sponsor, and a Recovery Coach?

I often get questions about what I do and why someone would want a recovery coach when programs like AA are free. My job is to complement a program of recovery, adding a whole new layer on top of your sponsor—something more high level.

An important note here: I am a child of AA. I’ve...

Sep 03, 2020 Writing a new chapter (Recovery in action, part 2)

This story is part two of my most recent post about what recovery in action looks like for me right now. Read it here.

Less than a month ago at lunchtime, while at work, I went up to the skyline - the one open-aired place in the building I used to call home. I sat on a chair under the sun,...

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