It’s the loop of disappearing.
Of ghosting yourself to “unwind.”
Of waking up thinking: not again.
But when you pause the pour—
you create a new, sacred space to find yourself.
It’s not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
FLIP
THE FCKIT SWITCH
Stop abandoning yourself before the first sip.
This isn’t a sobriety program.
It’s the prequel—what happens when you stop lying to yourself.
Four weeks. One deep yes. Zero shame.
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THE PAUSE BEFORE THE POUR
You told yourself tonight would be different.
The bottle’s still full. The cork is still in.
And then—
The kids fight.
Your partner’s late.
Work hits with a last-minute “urgent” email.
“Screw it. Just one. I’ll start tomorrow.”
THAT’S THE FCK-IT SWITCH
Not a meltdown—a quiet negotiation.
The moment you disappear on yourself again.
You don’t need a meeting. You need a mirror.
Someone to sit with you inside the war with the wine.
Because you know you’ve kept every promise—except the one that mattered most:
the one you made to yourself.
WHO THIS IS FOR
For the woman who keeps breaking her own heart behind closed doors.
For the woman who looks put together—but feels like she’s coming undone.
She keeps the house running, the kids fed, the deadlines met.
She’s the responsible one. The strong one.
The one who gets sh*t done—even if it means disappearing behind a glass at the end of the day.
No one sees the war she fights by 6pm.
The whisper that says, “Don’t.”
And the louder one that says, “You’ve earned it.”
She’s not reckless. She’s just exhausted from being everything for everyone—except herself.
This is for the woman who’s quietly craving a line in the sand.
Who’s done breaking her own heart.
Who knows deep down: the wine isn’t the problem.
It’s the silence. The pressure. The disconnection.
And it’s time to come home to herself.
This is for the woman who does it all—then opens the wine
and calls it “self-care”
You don’t need a rock bottom.
You need to stop breaking trust with yourself at 6pm.
SIGN UP NOW – SPOTS ARE LIMITEDEverything shifts when you stop abandoning yourself.
It’s not just about not drinking.
It’s about what happens when you reclaim that split-second. When you pause before the pour, you choose power over pattern.
When the FCKIT switch doesn’t own you anymore, you start to own yourself.
In this mentorship, you’ll feel the shift. Not someday. Week one.
You’ll feel your nervous system settle.
You’ll move through evenings with new clarity. You’ll wake up proud instead of panicked.
This isn’t about committing to never drink again.
This is about getting honest—about what’s working, what’s not, and how you want to feel in your skin.
You don’t have to be ready for sobriety.
You just have be ready to stop betraying yourself.
The 4-Week Framework
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Week One: The Truth Before The Truth
We break the silence. You’ll name what’s not working—without shame, without labels. You’ll start hearing the voice underneath the habit.
02
Week Two: Meet Your FCKIT Switch
We slow it down. You’ll learn to spot the pattern, feel the build, and recognize the exact moment your brain goes into negotiation mode.
03
Week Three: Rewire The Loop
We interrupt the auto-pilot. You’ll practice new responses, grounded in what your body actually needs—not what your habits demand.
04
Week Four: Build Your New Baseline
We integrate. You’ll walk into your life with a clear plan, deeper self-trust, and the clarity to keep moving forward—whether you choose to drink less, take a break, or explore sobriety on your own terms.
By the end of this mentorship, you’ll know exactly what your next step is. And whatever you decide—I’ll be right there with you. Hand in hand.
EveryStep of the way.
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You’ve done “just one.”
You’ve done Day Ones.
You’ve done the spiral,
the silence, the spin.
You’ve worn the mask
and held it all in.
But you’re done shrinking—
you're done playing small.
This, babe, is where that ends.
SIGN UP NOW – SPOTS ARE LIMITEDWHAT YOU GET: THE VALUE STACK
This isn’t a course. This is private mentorship. It’s you and me, digging deep into your wiring to find the path back to your power.
01
Four Private Sessions With Me
One per week, via Zoom. No fluff. Just truth, strategy, and deep support tailored to your actual life.
02
Ongoing Support Between Sessions
You’ll have direct access to me via WhatsApp for voice notes, check-ins, and back-pocket coaching—so you never feel alone.
03
Your Custom Roadmap
This isn’t one-size-fits-all. We’ll map your exact loop, your triggers, and your exit plan. Clear. Empowering. Flexible.
04
The Unapologetically Sober Journal
Shipped to your door. This isn’t a journal—it’s a reckoning. The same tool I use with clients to unlock their why and start rewriting their story.
05
Craving-Crushing Tools
Simple, powerful practices to help you pause, reconnect, and ride out the urge without losing yourself.
06
Final Clarity Session
We’ll wrap with a powerful integration call to help you see the full picture—what’s really driving the cycle, what’s shifted, and what next steps are available to you. No pressure. Just clarity.
You don’t just get coaching, clarity and support. You get your damn power back.
I WANT A FREE CLARITY CALL FIRSTYou don’t have to crush it. You just have to show up.
This isn't about proving anything.
It’s about making space to finally hear yourself.
No timelines.
No milestones.
No shame if it’s messy.
This mentorship moves at the speed of your nervous system—
and honors the real life you’re living.
Some days will feel clear. Some will feel heavy.
All of it belongs.
You don’t need more pressure.
You need more truth.
This work isn’t about perfection.
It’s about stopping the ghosting—and staying in the room.
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IT WAS NEVER ABOUT THE WINE.
It looks like a drinking problem. But it’s not.
And maybe—just maybe…it’s about falling in love with your life again.
What is this really costing you?
It's not just the sleep.
It’s the self-trust that slips a little further every time you say, “just one.”
It’s the shame spiral that hijacks your mornings.
- The $18 wine.
- The $50 Uber.
- The $300 guilt-fueled shopping spree.
- The $5,000-a-year habit that stopped feeling like a treat
a long time ago.
But what's the actual cost?
The confidence you used to own.
The intimacy you used to feel.
The woman who used to meet her own eyes in the mirror.
That's the real cost.
And here’s the truth bomb:
You’re afraid sobriety will steal your freedom, fun, and identity.
But this cycle?
It’s already taken everything you’re afraid to lose.
And if you don’t interrupt it—it’ll keep taking.
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What happens when you say YES.
Maybe you’re not ready to stop drinking forever.
That’s okay.
This isn’t about forever.
It’s a pause. A reset.
That’s okay.
This isn’t about forever.
It’s a pause. A reset.
And when you do?
You stop waking with that pit in your stomach
You pour coffee instead of apologies.
You meet your eyes in the mirror—and like what you see.
The shame softens.
The guilt lifts.
Your joy returns, not as a reward, but as a right.
You pour coffee instead of apologies.
You meet your eyes in the mirror—and like what you see.
The shame softens.
The guilt lifts.
Your joy returns, not as a reward, but as a right.
You feel safe as you finally breathe.
You stop performing your life and begin to live it.
And one day—something shifts.
You stop performing your life and begin to live it.
And one day—something shifts.
You flip the FCKIT switch—Not to pour the drink, but to pour your power back into yourself.
Ready now or almost?
There’s a path either way.
This is the best investment you can make—
not just in your time or money,
but in your self-trust.
It takes three seconds of bravery to move past the fear and say yes to yourself.
That’s it. Three seconds of truth.
Three seconds of you know this is right.
So if you're ready?
Click below and apply for your spot now.
No more circling.
No more waiting for a breakdown to earn your breakthrough.
I’m ready—save my seat
Still unsure?
Book a free clarity call.
This isn’t a pitch.
It’s a conversation.
An honest space where we untangle what’s really going on—and help you get clear.
You’ll walk away with insight, and a few answers to what you already know is the next step
Why Pamela?
I didn’t learn this in a textbook.
I lived it—high heels on the outside, high-functioning chaos on the inside. Running work meetings. Heels and red lipstick. Chardonnay in the coffee mug by morning.
And the shame? Alive and well.
Until one night I drove my son after drinking. I knew it. He knew it. There were no sirens. Just me on a cold bathroom floor whispering, “This has to stop.” That moment didn’t ruin me—it woke me the hell up.
So I got sober.
Five years of checking the boxes—meetings, sponsors, doing everything right. I looked good on paper, but inside, I was still crawling out of my skin. I hadn’t healed. I hadn’t looked under the hood.
I drank again.
Two long-ass years of lying to myself, of pretending I was fine while disappearing in a glass. But that relapse gave me everything. It stripped the bullshit.
No more pointing fingers. No more victimhood. No more wishing I could drink like other people. I owned my truth. I chose me.
Now I help women press pause on their life. Burn the old blueprint. Write a new story.
- Not with shame.
- Not with rules.
- With rebellion.
- With clarity.
Because healing doesn’t begin when you hit bottom—
it begins the moment you start saying yes to yourself.
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I’m done circling.
I’m done hiding.
I’m ready to break the cycle and find out
what’s really underneath my drinking.
I’m Curious — But Still on the Fence
I know something needs to shift.
I’m just scared to say yes.
I’m not sure if I’m ready… but I’m ready to talk.
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THE REAL TALK
What if I’m not ready to quit drinking?
What if I don’t identify as an alcoholic?
Is this like AA or therapy?
What if I’m still drinking during the mentorship?
What if I don’t have time?
Will this guarantee I get sober?
DON’T ABANDON YOURSELF.
NOT THIS TIME.
This is the sacred pause—
before the pour,
before the loop,
before the “not yet.”
You’re holding the pen now.
before the pour,
before the loop,
before the “not yet.”
You’re holding the pen now.
Write a new ending.
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