6 sober morning rituals that help me stay at peace

Here's the truth: early sobriety made mornings like walking into a room full of noise and not knowing where the volume knob was. I used to wake up in a full-body haze. Shame hanging around like a hangover even when I hadn't had a drink. 

So I started building mornings that were mine again. Not perfect. Not Instagram influencer aesthetic. Just small, doable grounding rituals that didn't ask me to be anyone I wasn't. They slowly helped me come back to myself. Here are eight things that actually helped. Take what you need. 

1. I drink water before caffeine

Not because I'm some wellness queen, but because it's the first promise I can keep for the day. It reminds me I'm not running from my body anymore. I'm showing up for her. Taking care of her in a way I never did before.

2. I open my journal before I open my phone

Ok, I'm not always perfect at this one, but I try to take care of my daily journaling while I'm still in bed. It's the one place I can tell the whole truth without editing. The journal I use? I created it. More on that below. But whether it's that one or not, get yourself a journal that doesn't judge. 

3. I indulge my sense of smell

I usually prefer to light a candle, but sometimes I just unscrew an essential oil bottle. Smell is tied to safety and ritual. It's also great at disrupting negative or ruminating thoughts, so I love to take a deep breath when I'm having a craving or "woe is me" moment throughout the day. Instant uplift. 

4. I do something for my nervous system. 

Sometimes that's stretching on the floor like a cat. Sometimes yoga. Sometimes it's placing a bag of ice on my vagus nerve. Sensory and movement based activities are both good at balancing the autonomic nervous system, which reduces stress. 

5. I feed myself something real

If you're still riding your mornings out on caffeine and cibes only, no shame. Eventually, though, my body started asking for more. I give it protein. Or toast with some peanut butter. Or leftovers from last night. Whatever. Food is a sober tool. Your body deserves to be nourished.

6. I make a plan for my day

My journal helps me set high-level intentions and top priorities for the day, but generally, I prefer a proactive approach over a reactive one. It's kind of a well, obviously, thing to say, but when I have a plan for my meals, my social interactions, and my mindset, I feel better.

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There's space in your new life for mornings full of calm. Get the journal for $22 on Amazon